style / mindset / simplicity
style / mindset / simplicity
I was recently asked an innocent question. A simple inquiry. Embarrassingly, it was one I could not answer. I was in the checkout lane at the grocery store. My typical weekly trip. The clerk was a friendly young man. As he scanned my items, he enthusiastically asked, “What did you do for fun this week?”
Instantly, I thought...what a sweet question.
I pondered. I hesitated. I froze.
I couldn't reply. I realized I didn’t have an answer.
I kept searching my mind for the fun that I’d surely had in the past seven days.
Nothing. I had nothing to offer.
I wanted to cry.
How was it possible that I had nothing to say for myself when asked about the fun I’d been having recently? That just couldn’t be right.
I replayed the question all the way home and for much of that evening. I fully believed that I must have somehow overlooked the obvious fun I’d had.
I even looked up the definition.
noun 1. enjoyment, amusement, or lighthearted pleasure.
This was beginning to stress me out. I couldn’t recall a single event that I would truly consider real ‘fun’.
I’d watched a few TV shows with Matthew.
I’d smiled at some wonderful Instagram posts.
I'd loved connecting with my Anthro family and clients.
I’d had a few good workouts.
Was that enough? Maybe I was being too harsh a judge of what qualifies as 'fun'.
The entire topic has been haunting me a bit since the young chap posed the question. I’m sure I came across as a cranky old woman who long ago gave up on fun. Again, I want to cry.
I want to have fun.
I want to be fun.
So, it’s clearly time for a FUN makeover.
I’m adding this to the parts of my life that I am tweaking and improving in my fifties. This pile is already pretty giant, so I figure what's another self-improvement?! ;-)
(See Simply 50- refining life for the next decade and Simply Now- knowing, learning, yearning for more info on what I'm currently fixing)
As with the other areas that need help...
I believe in starting with an evaluation.
What does fun mean to me?
What activities do I consider fun?
How much value do I place on having fun?
How can I incorporate more fun into my daily life?
I've decided to start with a fun probationary period.
Here's what I'm committed to for the month of December:
Make time for me. Self-care feels fun. I know that when I'm relaxed I'm more fun.
Lighten up. My eyes are now open to my serious nature and my tendency to worry way too much. I obviously need to revisit my feelings about Fear. It's time to up my 'expect the best' game.
Laugh out loud every day. Random YouTube silliness and my very own teenagers are always good for a chuckle. Everybody got time for that.
Accept my own idea of fun. Even if it differs from the norm. Find joy in the moments that feel good. Fun doesn't mean funny.
Remember the fun. By reliving the fun times in my mind, I'll attract more fun and I'll always have a ready answer when asked to recount my recent fun!
This mini-study has made me realize that I’m not particularly lighthearted. I’m not easily amused. It's often a struggle for me to be fun.
However, if I include some common synonyms of fun...relaxation, entertainment, pleasure, leisure...then I definitely have fun most, if not every, day. Whew! I feel much better now:-)
I love naps.
I love meditating.
I love reading and learning.
I love some Netflix and chill with Matthew
I love sharing a meal with my family.
I love time with my friends.
If all of the above qualify as ‘fun’, then I’m good. I’m having fun!
How about you? Are you fun?
What did you do that was fun this week?
Please comment below so we can all learn how to be more fun!
Thanks so much for being here. Your support means the world!
December is my very favorite month!! I'm still working on lots of new stuff for The Together Act...it's exciting and exhausting and actually fun!
Have an awesome weekend!
The top photo is from a million years ago. Matthew and I were babies. I remember that night being very much fun.
The second photo is from a few years ago in North Carolina. I recall someone being elbowed in the eye...but there was laughter and love and pure fun.
As I scrolled to select images for this post, I became very aware of something. I have more to say on this subject, but I'll save those thoughts for another time.