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style / mindset / simplicity
F is for FRIENDSHIP- I’ve reached a point in my life where I desperately want to reconnect with my friends. Watching my 17 year old daughter with her high school friends makes me miss those days. I long for an uninterrupted sleep-over with lots of time to talk and share. Hours to dig in deep and laugh and cry until sunrise. Raw, unconditional friendship is a sacred thing. A connection to be nurtured and treasured.
There are so many types of friendships. I believe each is valuable and important.
The easy bond with a co-worker
The lifetime connection to your high school BFF
The sisterhood you share with your very first friend
I cherish my friends. I think of them often and with great love.
Three years ago, my family moved 1800 miles from the area I’d called home for most of my life. It was extremely hard to leave my support system behind. Friendships that spanned decades are now sustained mostly through long-distance phone calls, texts and social media.
To my surprise, some of those friendships have actually strengthened and evolved beautifully despite the physical distance. I am forever grateful for that unexpected bonus.
As a young adult, finding time for friends came easily when my friends and I were living the shared fate of raising our babies. There was always the excuse of a ‘play date’ to bring us together.
As my kids grew older, it became more difficult to make time for hanging out with my friends. There was always something getting in the way.
And, as cliche as it sounds...my husband truly is my very best friend...so I usually choose to spend my time with him.
After we moved, I felt the void of having no local friends. It was lonely. Gradually, I met women who seemed like ‘friend material’. Women who I genuinely couldn’t wait to see again. Making new friends and cultivating young friendships is always an interesting process. Especially in your mid-forties. I felt like a young girl...eagerly hoping to hear back from the cool chick.
As a side note: The past few years have been rough for our family. We endured some very difficult times. I know I kept some women at arm’s length because it was easier. I felt safer not having to divulge too much of what was happening in my life. I built a wall to avoid getting too close.
Over time, that wall weakened a bit, but it’s time for it to come down.
I feel that I’ve been neglecting or not pursuing some incredible friendships. In the midst of a busy, stressful life, I pushed friendships aside in an attempt to keep all of the plates spinning.
I now realize that our real friends are more than happy to take a turn with those plates.
I’ve missed hanging out with my friends. I want to schedule some girl time.
So, I’m going to reach out and make plans with the women I’ve missed.
Fingers crossed... they’d like to have lunch!
How do you keep your friendships strong?
Have you made any new friends lately?
What do you miss about teenage friendships?
I’d love to hear your thoughts...please share!
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