style / mindset / simplicity
style / mindset / simplicity
Note: Given today’s word, I’d be remiss if I didn’t acknowledge the unspeakable tragedy that occurred in Las Vegas last week. I cannot imagine the sheer terror felt by those present on Sunday night. Their fear is on a scale I can’t even begin to process. I had already chosen my word for F prior to the start of this challenge, so I’m going to stick to plan.
My heart aches and my prayers continue for all those affected by the world's recent terrifying events. .
The fear I’m exploring today is internal fear.
Fear that holds us back. Fear that keeps us small.
Jack Canfield had it right, “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.”
(Fun Fact: Author, Jack Canfield holds the Guinness Book World Record for having seven books simultaneously on the New York Times Bestseller List)
I’ve been outrageously fortunate. The bulk of my fears have been entirely fabricated in my own mind. For decades, I’ve lived with fears of my own making. My fears aren’t unusual. They aren’t unique to me. I share my fearful thoughts with most humans.
Fear of not having enough.
Fear of not being enough.
Fear of someone I love being hurt.
Fear of being hurt.
Fear of failure.
And the super sneaky, fear of success.
Basic, common, normal concerns.
It took me years to recognize that fear was preventing me from really thriving.
I didn’t realize how often the same unfounded fears reappeared in my mind.
My fearful thoughts about one topic have always been like a runaway freight train...
For as long as I can remember, I viewed all things financial through a distorted lens of lack. A few years ago, some very specific events served as concrete reinforcement that my fears were warranted. My mind seemed to breed thoughts of 'never enough'.
The habit was insidious. I placed my ‘financial lack filter’ over every thought. Every day.
I was tired of living with the constant fear of not having enough.
I began the grueling work of excavating this fear and shining a very bright light on it.
The process of shedding the old thoughts and beginning to let go really began after reading May Cause Miracles- A 40-Day Guidebook of Subtle Shifts for Radical Change and Unlimited Happiness by Gabrielle Bernstein.
If you deal with recurring fears, financial or otherwise, and haven’t read it...I suggest that you grab a copy and prepare to crack your internal stories and limiting beliefs wide open!
This book invites you on a 40-day exploration of your fears and teaches you to see things in a new way. The lessons I took from this book are with me daily.
My fears no longer control me.
Here’s the thing...when we take a good hard look at our fears, most of them are completely imagined. We create the negative stories in our own minds. Then we choose the worrisome thoughts over and over and over until they become our truth.
Not only that, but our minds are masterful at weaving a grand tale...so we embellish and elaborate and fertilize our stories until they are GIGANTIC!
But still imagined.
Any lingering fears I have are never about what’s actually happening in the moment.
When I’m anchored in the Now, my fears have no place.
Instead, fears thrive on the momentum of past circumstances and they become super-sized when projected into the future.
Larger than life. Worst case scenario.
The human mind is utterly remarkable.
So why don’t we use our minds to picture the Best Case Scenario?
That’s always a possibility also.
Why not imagine that outcome? The awesome one.
And then keep adding to that 'awesome outcome option' until it shines so brightly that no dark fear can take root.
As I’ve been clearing out the crazy fears that definitely don’t serve me, I’ve begun to feel immense gratitude. There are so many people in the world who face legitimate fears every single day. People whose realities I cannot even fathom. Just that realization has done much to shut down my recurring thoughts of make-believe fears.
When I sense the old familiar fears creeping back in...I turn to gratitude. I give thanks for my ability to see things more clearly now. And I send love and peace to those whose fears are not imagined.
What fears are stuck on replay in your mind?
Have you found a way to sweep them away?
I’d love to know what works for you. Thanks for your comments. I'm so happy you're here for this challenge..
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